Your body is perfect the way it is, but we have all those concepts about right and wrong, good and bad, beautiful and ugly.
These are just concepts, but we believe them, and that’s the problem. With the image of perfection we have in our mind, we expect our body to look a certain way, to act a certain way. We reject our own body when the body is completely loyal to us. Even when our body can’t do something because of its limitations, we push our body and our body at least tries. Look at what you do with your own body. If you reject your own body, what can other people expect from you? If you accept your own body, you can accept almost everyone, almost everything. This is a very important point when it comes to the art of relationship. The relationship you have with yourself is reflected in your relationships with others. If you reject your own body, when you are sharing your love with your partner, you become shy.
You think, “Look at my body.How can he love me when I have a body like this?” Then you reject yourself and make the assumption that the other person will reject you for the same thing you reject in yourself. And when you reject someone else, you reject him for the same things you reject in yourself.
To create a relationship that takes you all the way to heaven, you have to accept your body completely. You have to love your
body and allow your body to be free to just be, to be free to give, free to receive, without being shy, because “shy” is nothing but fear.
The Mastery of Love, Don Miguel Ruis